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A thought you’d enjoy this read sent to me.

Hi Bookfoxers,

I’m going to be real with you.

I’ve experienced an enormous amount of rejection. Not the “I’ve been rejected 10 times” type of rejection. Not the “I’ve been rejected 100 times” type of rejection. No, I’m talking four-figures worth of rejection. Anybody who is anybody has said no to me.

As of today, I’ve gotten 1781 rejections for my writing. Yep, that’s 1781 times that someone has read my work and said, “Nope, this isn’t good enough.” 

I don’t like to share that. Because I feel like as an author and teacher and editor, I have to project this aura of invincibility: “Look at me! I’ve figured out how to do this! I’ve published books and won big contests and I am the greatest!”

But the truth is that for every contest I’ve won, I’ve racked up hundreds of other rejections. For every book I’ve published, I’ve gotten many, many emails from publishers saying, “You’re not good enough.”

And I guarantee that I’m not alone. Ask any writer and they’ll tell you about their failures as well.

But you shouldn’t just suffer under the weight of rejection — you can learn from it! 

Here are 6 things that I’ve learned from amassing an Everest-sized pile of rejections:

  1. Just because one publisher/agent doesn’t like your story doesn’t mean anything. It might be right for someone else. Taste is a huge factor in stories, and you just need to find the right tastemaker.
  2. You are not a unique snowflake for piling up thousands of rejections. You are merely living the writing life. If you think you’re abnormal, you’ll beat yourself up, but if you think of this as the normal course of becoming a writer, you’ll endure it with fortitude.
  3. Don’t get gun shy because you get a rejection. Revise it, then send it out to 10 more places. It’s natural to avoid things that hurt, but the solution is not to stop submitting, but stop allowing the rejections to hurt you. Armor-clad your writing confidence.
  4. Your self-worth does not depend on acceptances. Not even your worth as a writer depends on acceptances. You’re a writer because you write, and your writing will, in the proper time, find its way to the right readers.
  5. You can’t avoid rejection by self-publishing. Yes, you won’t be rejected by agents or publishers, but you will struggle to find readers, and get rejected in the marketing process (with attempts to get book reviews!) and get bad reviews sometimes. Every writer has to have a system to deal with rejection, not just those seeking traditional publication.
  6. Sometimes rejection tells you that you are writing the wrong thing. Maybe you need to switch genres, maybe you need to write something shorter or longer. Don’t keep pounding your head against the wall — pivot and try something a little different.

Never rejecting myself,

John Matthew Fox

Want feedback and help with your book?

Jon Davis, Developmental Book Editor and Poetry Editor

Danielle DyalCopy Editor

John Matthew Fox, Children’s Books and Short Stories

Podcasting or Youtube

Most people find this confusing with Podcasting. Or, should I say, “I do.” Joyce Keller Walsh, one of our co-founders to Authors Without Borders (www.awb6.com), or http://www.authorswithoutborders.wordpress.com, decided to go a way I like. No headache.

She goes once a month to Chart Productions in Braintree, Massachusetts and tapes two productions at one time (1/2 hour each). Joyce pays them to do all the audio taping, editing, and production. The program also goes Internationally. Contacting Chart Productions is Jordan Rich, (781) 356-1500. He would give you all the pricing and how they run their radio shows.

All Joyce does is goes home and decides what she wants to talk about and writes it down. She reads it with the editor there listening to her and marks where he hears it needs corrections with cutting.

When it’s done, she goes home. It’s all left behind her without returning to do all the work the recorder does. My kind of doing Podcasting. All you need is MONEY!

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SESSION KEY-NOTES FOR TALKS




”The Effect of Alcoholism on the Whole Family

* The devastating toll of alcoholism on the family
* The self-destruction of the addict
* For those looking for strength from their own alcoholic-driven problems
* The enabling
* Blackouts/physical and emotional abuse
* Denial
* Protecting the children
* Breakdowns
* Feelings of hopelessness
* Communication in the marriage
* Professional help
* Separation or divorce
* Ignoring the signs of teenage drinking
* Hidden emotional problems with the children
* Taking time to listen and communicate with your teen
* Giving complete support
* Being involved in their counseling, doctor’s appointments and recovery program

“My Spiritual Changes Within”

* Focus on relationships with our loved ones
* Strengthening your belief in your faith
* Tours to Medjugorje/spiritual renewals
* Alberta’s spiritual experience in Medjugorje
* The secrets Our Lady is giving the visionaries
* Description of the apparitions
* The importance of Confession
* Miracles all around us
* Awareness of God in our lives
* Alberta encourages us to examine our life
* Recognize the value of thankfulness
* Saying goodbye to our loved ones
* Renew the joy in life



”Where am I Heading?”

(School Program)
* The introduction to alcohol and drugs
* Signs of alcohol abuse
* Following the crowd
* Binge drinking
* Hereditary or a disease
* Habit, action, location, and friends
* Facing your family and school problems
* Recovery programs
* Breaking from the drinking and drug friends
* Getting on with life
* The reality of Cirrhosis of the Liver

**Alberta is willing to talk on any topic you may want for your event. She would love to discuss what would be the best fit. Please feel free to send questions to alberta.sequeira@gmail.com


Visit her website at http://www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com
References from the Bristol Correction Office at Faunce Corner Road in North Dartmouth, MA:
1. Rui M. Lima, MA, MSW, LICSW, Director of Substance Abuse & Social Servies Programs & Treatment: Telephone: 508-995-6400 ext. 2821
2. Matthew Robitaille, Director of Classification and Programs;​ Telephone: 508-995-6400 ext. 2504
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Alberta Sequeira

Email: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

other writer’s site: wwww.authorswithoutborders.wordpress.com

A list for 2020

  • This new list doesn’t have to be long.  As with anything, you need to start with that first sentence.
  • Do you need to contact agents, publisher or a writing coach
  • Do you need to find an editor to polish your manuscript
  • Contact people who can help with a good opening hook for your story
  • Do you need to find someone who does sharp book covers
  • Find a writer’s group
  • Where do you want to give talks
  • List bookstores, schools, newspaper editors, cable tv hosts, radio stations for interviews.